Cultivating Masculinity

This five-part series explores the essences of masculinity that are fundamental to attraction, and lays out a practical path to deliberately cultivating them.

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Masculinity: Part 1 - Have You Actually Become A Man Yet?
Men, ask yourself the question: “Deep down, how certain are you that you feel you have already become a man?” That question may appear redundant, but I can assure you that many of us have struggled to answer it with confidence, even with several decades of life experience behind us. Despite cruising past life’s milestones of puberty, leaving home, datin…
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Masculinity: Part 2 - Cultivating Desirable Masculine Qualities
This is the second part of an ongoing series. Start by reading this if you haven’t already: In Part 1 of the series, we explored the archetypes of masculinity and femininity, including the unattractive dimension of the “wounded masculine”. Before tackling the “how to” question, let’s look at yet another aspect of masculinity…
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Masculinity: Part 3 - Emotional Acceptance & Regulation For Men
This is the third part of an ongoing series. Start here if you haven’t already: In Part 2 of this series we discussed some of the steps to begin deliberately cultivating the attractive qualities of masculinity. Here in Part 3 we will continue this theme…
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Masculinity: Part 4 - Cultivating Dark Masculine Energy
This is the fourth part of a series. If you haven’t already, you should read this first: LANGUAGE WARNING: This article contains some obscene language and is therefore Not Safe For Work or immature audiences. What Do We Mean By Dark? Unfortunately the adjective “dark” often carries a connotation of evil - e.g. “the forces of darkness”. This can create co…
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Masculinity: Part 5 - Bringing Dark Masculinity Into The Bedroom
CAUTION: This article contains sexually explicit and obscene language. It is Not Suitable For Work, and is intended for Mature Readers Only. This article is published under the “Sex Ed For Grown Ups” section. If you prefer not to receive emails with explicit content, please…
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