41 Things Women Wish Their Lovers Knew
Every Man's Guide to Becoming A Better Lover
Before we begin, let me ask you how you learned about sex. Not the basic biology, but rather how to maximise the mutual pleasure of sex with your lover. If you're a woman, you’ve probably learned a whole lot from women’s magazines and conversations with your girlfriends. If you’re a man, unless you’ve had the good fortune of a relationship with an enlightened and communicative woman, chances are that your primary source of sex education is porn.
Some slightly more thoughtful men deliberately turn to lesbian porn - after all it’s produced for a female audience, right??? Wrong! Almost all porn is produced for male audiences, and hardly any of it ticks the boxes of what most women desire from their intimate relationships.
After recognising this conundrum, I undertook a year of research explaining the problem to women, and posing the question “what are a few things you wish your lovers had learned before coming to your bed?”. The answers were surprising, and although they ranged across a diverse spectrum of desires, I was able to distill the responses of around a hundred women of various ages and backgrounds into 41 topics. These topics combine with insights from professional sexologists, Tantra, Taoism, and the world of kink to form the basis of 41 Things Women Wish Their Lovers Knew: a fun and engaging workshop series that I developed to help men and couples unlock new levels of intimacy and enjoy mind-blowing sex.
In future articles we’ll reveal some of the answers and offer guidance to help men to live up to the desires of their partner.
Spoiler Alert: The Answers Were Not What You Might Expect…
Admittedly the answers covered a vast spectrum of desires, but if you're thinking that you need to learn fancy positions and physical techniques to measure up, you’d be mistaken. (That’s not to say that you can’t spice things up like this.) Most men will get far more “bang for your buck” (pardon the pun) by focusing on much more subtle things that yield much more profound results for your partner.
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